If you’ve ever felt like your relationship was less of a partnership and more of an emotional life raft, you aren’t alone. In the therapy world, we talk a lot about love addiction and anxious attachment styles as separate concepts, but clinically speaking, they are driven by the exact same engine: a profound, hardwired fear of abandonment. This often presents as a belief system founded on "I am not good enough". When someone lacks an internal blueprint for emotional safety, t

During the process of change (aka Growth) a multitude of internal experiences are occurring at the same time. Being in the process of growth, especially during good therapy work, can cause some ripple affects we were not expecting. This is where the concept of Hurt comes in. Growth may bring about discomfort, disruption, and at times, downright ugliness. The Hurt may manifest as distressing memories, confronting past versions of ourselves, intense emotions, intrusive thought

Eeeek! Couples Counseling! We all know the stigma around counseling, but especially couples counseling!? Yikes! We hear things like, “Did...